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skerenMy best friend is got engaged a couple days ago. He told me about it today.
I knew what he was going to say before he even said it too, and he hadn't even told me he was dating anyone.
I know her, she's a good, strong person.
I want to be happy for him.
Instead I have this bittersweet sense of hurt going on. I told him to be happy, and he was excited. I told him about a few of my plans, which seem to be a bit shaky as of this week. He was about as caught off guard by them as I was by his.
It made me feel better. But I really don't think being told something like 'I'm getting married! XD' would ever make me go 'oh. I think I knew that' inwardly and immediately have the urge to close the IM.
That's not what I said of course. Really, I didn't say much of anything, told him to be happy, told him I better be invited.
This is the guy I've been dating on again off again for almost eight years. At one point, more than one actually, me and him actually settled in somewhere to go over details of what our wedding would be like if we decided to go there. If you knew him you'd know he doesn't talk about that sort of thing unless he is actually outlining hopes, and he meant it at the time.
It was years ago, and it shouldn't bother me now. He makes me smile, and I never do smile often enough, never have and I know it.
So I'm hurt, but I'm happy he's happy because he's a great friend when he doesn't forget he was supposed to do something with you.
I also vaguely feel like crying, but I don't at the same time.
I think what gets me most is I remember him telling me he'd always be around for me if I needed someone, but this sort of precludes that. I won't begrudge him being happy. That's part of why this post is friends locked actually, I don't want it to get back to him if he looks over and have him start to worry about me during his whole excitement phase.
He's been in the state for a week.
I think that's what gets me most about the whole thing.
He's been in the state for a week and he didn't even send me an e-mail to say so.
I'm not sure how I feel right now, but I don't like it.
I'd like this week to be over now.
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I knew what he was going to say before he even said it too, and he hadn't even told me he was dating anyone.
I know her, she's a good, strong person.
I want to be happy for him.
Instead I have this bittersweet sense of hurt going on. I told him to be happy, and he was excited. I told him about a few of my plans, which seem to be a bit shaky as of this week. He was about as caught off guard by them as I was by his.
It made me feel better. But I really don't think being told something like 'I'm getting married! XD' would ever make me go 'oh. I think I knew that' inwardly and immediately have the urge to close the IM.
That's not what I said of course. Really, I didn't say much of anything, told him to be happy, told him I better be invited.
This is the guy I've been dating on again off again for almost eight years. At one point, more than one actually, me and him actually settled in somewhere to go over details of what our wedding would be like if we decided to go there. If you knew him you'd know he doesn't talk about that sort of thing unless he is actually outlining hopes, and he meant it at the time.
It was years ago, and it shouldn't bother me now. He makes me smile, and I never do smile often enough, never have and I know it.
So I'm hurt, but I'm happy he's happy because he's a great friend when he doesn't forget he was supposed to do something with you.
I also vaguely feel like crying, but I don't at the same time.
I think what gets me most is I remember him telling me he'd always be around for me if I needed someone, but this sort of precludes that. I won't begrudge him being happy. That's part of why this post is friends locked actually, I don't want it to get back to him if he looks over and have him start to worry about me during his whole excitement phase.
He's been in the state for a week.
I think that's what gets me most about the whole thing.
He's been in the state for a week and he didn't even send me an e-mail to say so.
I'm not sure how I feel right now, but I don't like it.
I'd like this week to be over now.
Edit Now unlocked.